Mother of all Problems

As a mother of one, with a surprise number 2 coming shortly, let me assure you that the pressure is immense. All the well meaning comments about how wonderful it all must be don't take into account some women's reality. Some women do experience the joy and bliss, but there are plenty of us out there who battle every day to just get out of bed and live up to high expectations of what we should be doing. Both pre and post-natal depression are insidious, resulting in you feeling like a complete and total failure as a human being. The hardest lesson we each need to learn and re-learn every day all over again, which many struggle to do (myself included), is that we have to meet our our goals and dreams, and not those of someone else.

Posted by: Susy of Brisbane 3:32pm November 28, 2007

I think some groups don't help the situation when they start arguments over individual choices such as "breast is best", "give birth without drugs", "co-sleeping is best". I know women who have been made to feel failures because they haven't breastfeed their babies. Does the media / breast-feeding association ever publicly acknowledge that there are situations where women are not able to breast feed and should not be judged?

Posted by: jo Dark of Brisbane 9:52am November 28, 2007

Thank God someone has finally done a study to determine how tough it is for mothers to feel perfect. In my case getting the energy up to continue breathing is tough.

Posted by: Perfect Mother of Brisbane 6:29pm November 27, 2007

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